Sunday, February 8, 2015

DYING FOR LOVE

There came the night I couldn't forget
I saw you standing near the shoreline bathed in light
I stood still, unsure if to be frightened or to faint
But you look up, smiled and beckoned me to come near

I did so, with my heart shouting loudly in my ears
I step closer and there my feet touch the waves
I shivered as the bottom of my dress become soaking wet
I reached out my hand to feel you if you’re real
But my hand met the coldness of the air
You are there and yet not for real

My lips moved as if to talk
But you embraced me and whispered softly
“I came back to you…”
At least, I managed to ask “w-why?”
“I’m lonely in my world, I need you there…”
“B-but you’re dead, I’m still alive”
“Do you love me?” You whispered to me again
“Yes I do, you knew it long time ago…”
“Then come to me, we will be together again”

You break away from me and walk away 
I protested “w-wait!”
You turned and replied to me…  “Come and follow me.”
I saw you walking until you reached the middle of the sea
You shouted…   “Come I am waiting!  I need you here with me.”
I followed you like an obedient child
I walked where you go
My head disappeared in the water 
And everything turned dark

Then came the light out there and I saw you there
Your smile was the light that guided me to reach your side
At last I am near you and never will part with you again
You embraced me again and murmured in my ear
“Welcome home my darling… At long last you’re already here…”







Saturday, February 7, 2015

NICE TO BE BACK:-)

It's been a while since I last been here in my blog site.  Many things have changed and some stays the same.  I've been away too long, I've neglected what once upon a time had been my home.  Here I poured out myself and created a colorful world from my imagination.  It's nice to express myself again, even if it's only me who cares or hears...

I come with full vengeance, I want to make-up with all those time lost being away from my domain.  I will clean the cobwebs which cover the place and wipe away all the dust which made all the things I've left forgotten.

Hello blog, hello home!  Thank you for the warm welcome I feel in your embrace.  I have something for you which will color the whole place again.  I brought with me, my once upon a time a dream...
I brought my book which I hope will be welcome too here.  I finished it after a long time of thinking and laboring, now ready to meet the world to bring its message meant.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL my book proudly say to you because you are indeed beautiful but you only don't know.  Come and join me in a journey that will let you see beauty in you...

Home, writing.... nice to be back again, to be myself and to utter what my heart sings...


SOON, you will know what I mean, God willing... Bye home and see you again:-)

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Sex: Male or Female?






SEX: MALE OR FEMALE?

By: Ma. Flores G. Isler


When we are filling-up certain documents that require the identification of our sex if either we are male or female, if we are normally born male or female, it’s very easy for us to identify our sex.  But what if you don’t know what you are because you are both?  Confusion will be certainly involved. Commonly third sex is recognized and accepted in most liberated society nowadays. Third sex is comprised of different identities under natural circumstances like transgender, transvestite, homosexual, transsexual, eunuchs and intersex people. Although, we are more familiar with homosexuals (gays and lesbians) since they can be seen around leading a normal life without causing a fuss unlike ages ago, at least in modern countries because there are still conservative countries which considered third sex a taboo.  But being lesbian or gay is only like having identity anarchy.  A gay was born girl in a boy’s body and lesbian a boy in a girl’s body.  Physically speaking they are normal, the abnormalities happen due to their opposite tendencies toward their sex.  They have penis but possess woman characteristics, they have vagina but they act and feel like a man.  Hence, it’s their feelings and thinking that has some conflicts so they cannot act or feel according to the sex that they were born with.

But what if you are both she and he?  And we are talking here physically, not only mentally and emotionally.  This type of condition is called intersex, a person born neither entirely male nor female or whose own sex when born was ambiguous.  It is shocking to know that DSD (Disorders of Sexual Development) is common as twins, meaning, in every fifty of us there is one person having a DSD.  If you are homosexual, the only thing that you will have a hard time in dealing with is your mental and emotional condition, but physically you are fine, unless you want to have a sex transplant but it’s a choice done where you’re mature enough to decide and it’s a different story.  If you have DSD, physically you are not normal because you have the genital of a boy even if your natural tendencies are of a girl and vice versa.  Imagine a girl being born having a testis and her clitoris has an abnormal enlargement that it looks like a penis.  Emotionally and mentally she is a girl but her private part contradicted her natural tendencies.  A normal lesbian can still get pregnant because her body was normally developed as a woman should be and a gay can still get a woman pregnant under normal circumstances.  But if you have DSD it’s contrary, you can have the perfect body form, normal tendencies but the confusion ends in your private part because your genital is not as it should be.  And in case of a man, sometimes the penis is too small that it will not be capable of penetrating a vagina, hence, he will become bitter, aloof and suffer an impotent feeling because he cannot totally function as a man.  It will create a tremendous frustration on him that will make him miserable for the rest of his life.  See the difference?  Intersex individual is a very complicated case of identifying yourself if you are asked about your sex.  You will be confused what to put if either you are male or female.  The normal sex is only male or female, even if you are gay or lesbian it is still very easy to identity your sex because your private part tells the real you.  Unlike on the case of the person with DSD condition that you cannot be identified as easily.  Although, upon your birth the doctors consider your sex male if your chromosomes falls higher on the XY and female if your chromosomes falls higher on XX even if genitally speaking it contradicted the higher level of your chromosomes. 

DSD condition is traumatic and crucial compared to other kind of third sex.  Why?  For those children with DSD condition whose parents can afford operation that can correct their genital abnormality can undergo as much as twenty or more genital operations in their lives even after few months that they were born and the operation will continue all along as they grow to maturity.   They will suffer the pain and even trauma of being under a surgeon scalpel as their genitals were operated to compliment the body form and chromosomes that they were born with.   Human being has a lot of complex sides that sometimes we are not even aware of, or even if we are aware we just simply take for granted due to our lack of understanding about what really it is.  DSD case is not something to be easily laid out in the open.  This is a more sensitive condition that a person can ever possess because chances are they will only be treated like a freak or laughing stock.  Unlike if you are gay or lesbian that you have the freedom nowadays to express yourself within the society that accepts you for who you are.  But if you have a DSD condition, exposing yourself to the society will give you a risk of being ridiculed and mistreated.  In all my life I never met a person who has this kind of condition and now that I brought it to my own awareness, I like to divulge further in order for me to know more and also to share to others what I’ve known.  In this way, we can be more sensitive and understanding to those people who are suffering under this condition.

I read stories that some of the children born with DSD were even shunned by their own flesh and blood that their parents even think of mercy killing the child for fear of letting her or him grow in an abnormal kind of life since he or she cannot function totally as man or woman when he or she grow up.  But I was touched because there are also parents who moved heaven and earth and were very supportive with their child with this kind of condition.  Although, it hurt and disappointed them tremendously having a child with DSD condition but the love and support they bestowed on their child were so massive that in the end the child learned to accept his or her situation in total understanding as he or she gets older.  I am in awe even only to imagine how the person won over his or her personal struggle by having this kind of condition but it is saddening too because some were not brave enough to accept being intersex that it drive them even to commit suicide.  They chose to end their lives than to suffer the mockery and unjust treatment that they will receive if their condition will be open to others.  This is the unfairness sometimes of the society that we live in, there are lots of prejudices that we can never tackle if we ourselves were not born normal like the rest.   The complexity of human being is sometimes hard to explain much less to understand but complexity is part of life that happens without making it our choice.  It’s all law of nature and we are all part of this law.  Each of our existence on earth is not something we decided prior to our birth because if we were given a choice we will all choose to be perfect and to be totally accepted within the society that we will grow with.  Third sex causes debate even until today because some people simply cannot accept the abnormal tendencies toward the inborn sex.  It’s even common occurrence that in some places gays and lesbians are treated outcast from their own family and from the conservative community that they live in.  But how the normal society reacts to a person with ambiguous sex?  How the normal people treat a person with DSD condition?  What if you are born with this condition but your parents cannot afford the expensive operation?  I think for the rest of your life you have this confusing sex identity that you yourself cannot even answer.  And for the rest of your life you will always hide from the crowd, afraid to fall in-love, afraid to trust and forever will suffer from inferiority complex and bitterness.  If we consider the total population on earth and of every 50 there is one person with DSD condition, I think it is safe to think that persons with DSD condition can compose even a nation in population.  And as they are this huge in number, did we ever care to think or to understand about them?  Did we pause for a moment to ponder on how they lead their lives?  Did we consider becoming sensitive to their feelings or emotion?

 I don’t personally know anyone belonging to intersex but I have gay and lesbian friends.  In a way, intersex being categorized also as third sex is similar in situation to homosexuals on how society treated their kinds.  One day, I was stunned and angered by a stupid question received by my gay friend from a person not even known to him but she was so full of prejudices about homosexuals.  She asked him insultingly why my friend was gay when God only created man and woman, so why he became gay?  It was the most dim-witted question I ever heard in my entire life and how I wish my gay friend questioned her back why God also created stupid persons?  In not so many words that person labeled my gay friend bad because he cannot totally function as a man.  Provided that God created man and woman as Adam and Eve in the bible but who created gays and lesbians? Did they pop out like magic?  Are they only like seeds that sprouted from the ground? Like a bamboo split open and gays and lesbians just came out?  Who is to be blame why there are gays and lesbians?  Should it be parents or environment?  If God created man and woman, it is also stated in the bible that everything here on earth occurred or happened according to Gods’ will.  It is also the same case that war is bad but why there is war? A lot of innocent people were killed for what reason?  And the reason even is beyond our understanding and control.  We are not in paradise yet, hence, this world will never be perfect. Life consists of oddities for a purpose, it doesn’t happen only for nothing.  Even bad exists so we could know what is good, day was created so we can see light after dark.  The air we breathe, the first cry of the new born baby and our death were all Gods’ will because he created the whole universe all according to his will.  Therefore, to ask why there is third sex is like asking why there is human on earth?  Who are we to question God’s will?  Who are we to ridicule the law of nature?  Who are we to be so self-righteous?  We are all not perfect.  Thus, the world that we live in is also not a perfect world and never will be unless humankind turned all perfect.

I have a close friend who is gay.  He is intelligent, fun to be with, we get along well, we laughed a lot, we share the same interest in dancing and we can talk about everything under the sun like he is also my lady friend.  I learned from his unique ideas and I admire his different kind of creativity.  Basically speaking, he is like me, a person whose sensitivity is very much attuned to human nature.  The only difference is that, his heart falters a beat if he saw a handsome man.  He turned blind eyes if he saw a sexy lady but he feels like swooning if he saw a sexy man.  Can I fault him with that kind of feeling?  It’s not his choice to feel that way, he likes to be normal but it is the tendency that he was born with that prevents him from acting normal.  And even if he wants to love a woman if his feelings will not allow him that, then what can he do about it?  Maybe if he will have a total male brain and heart transplant then that could be possible.  Thus, this is primarily my point, why should we blame a person for what she or he is when it was never his or her choice in the first place?  I found it so ridiculous why some parents cannot even accept their child who turned lesbian or gay that sometimes a father will beat up his child until he turned blue in order for him to change his natural tendencies.  It is simply illogical and inhuman behavior.  A gay or lesbian can only change according to his or her decision because he or she knows more themselves than anybody else.  If there is chance for them to change then it’s a matter of self-decision and right time for them to do so, not only to be impose to them that it is the right thing to do.  The only fault here is that, most of us are just so self-righteous, especially if we were born normal and accepted by the society that we live in so it’s very easy for us to judge others who are not.  But what if we put ourselves also in their shoes, then how we will feel?  How we will react to the way a discriminating society treats us?

Third sex or whatever sex we have, we are all human being inside and out.  The most important thing is for us to live in harmony with each other and we could do this if we have the correct understanding.  Even if we are normal men and women if we do harm to others, if we only destroy beautiful things on earth then what good will we offer to this world?  If you belong in third sex and you can offer more to the world than the normal sexes then your existence is more beneficial to humankind.  The true character of the person is more important than the sex he or she possesses.  It is the heart and attitude that keep the world sane and creates world peace.  It is love and understanding that keeps relationship going.  It is love and heart that sees real beauty.  It is attitude and heart that makes a person compassionate, accept life realities and understand whatever it is to understand.  Our gender is not of primary importance but it’s our attitude as an individual that will give importance to our existence.  Our body is only the physical manifestation of our soul.  Our physical body is only a tool to serve our purpose on earth.  We are what we are now because of the law of nature.  God has given us certain mission to do, a purpose why we exist as we are now.  It is not only a matter of chances or human mistake.  Therefore, it is unjustly to mistreat others because he or she belongs to third sex.  The most important thing is the way how we deal with other people, how we strive hard to do goodness to the world.  The world is not created just to cater to all our needs.  It was also created to be a place for us to contribute something beneficial to human kind so generation to generation will continue to exist until the end of time… 


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The author/blogger is a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration graduate major in Computer Management. She worked for several years in Abu Dhabi, UAE as Secretary/Document Controller and finally settles down for good in the Philippines as an entrepreneur and to continue her passion in writing. She authored more than thirty published romance pocket books and several horror/thriller stories under the pseudonym of KATHLEEN GUILLER and real name MA. FLORES GUIANAN-ISLER from leading publishers in the country. She also writes poems, articles and short stories here in her blog site (www.maflorisler@blogspot.com). Recently she finished working on an inspirational book (her dream book) and her first try in another genre of writing which she prefers working on nowadays. This book is to be publish in the Philippines this year. Her other inspirational books coming out soon are: - How to deal with your worst enemy - Wandering Soul - Loving or Leaving?

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